Name-day celebration!

It’s my 24th name-day & to celebrate it, we had a cook off at my place on June 18th so we could greet the midnight together. It’s just a small get-together but, as it turns out, no event is too small if it’s with the best people a girl could have on her birthday.

   
    
  

           

  

  

   

   

  

We continued the celebration on the 19th! I actually wore a dress cause, you know, it’s my day. 

   
 We were supposed to eat at somewhere fancy but we ended up at Captain A’s for a special boodle fight dinner. If you don’t know what a boodle fight is, it’s a uniquely Filipino dining experience where food is laid on a banana leaf and people try to eat as much as possible with their hands. It’s a “fight” cause people will be competing with each other over the food to be eaten. It’s a beautiful mess, really.

 https://instagram.com/p/4HmPhHIFUw/

   

  

  

  

  

  

   

   

Cute relationships

I chanced upon my Facebook newsfeed recently and came upon the really sweet Facebook posts of my former prrofessor and his girlfriend.

While I naturally despise overly cutesy displays of couple-y affection on social media (call me bitter or whatever), I actually find our former professor’s relationship with his girlfriend very endearing and adorable.

Here’s what makes their relationship cute and definitely welcome on my newsfeed:

1. They don’t fuss (excessively) about themselves on Facebook.
Sure, they show affection by posting cute “I love you” messages on each other’s wall, but they certainly post about other aspects of their lives. Also, it’s not annoying because the “I love you”s are usually used in playful banter (which I find totally adorable).

2. They don’t take themselves too seriously.
Sure, we all know they really, really like each other and enjoy each other’s company, but they don’t go around proclaiming to the world how lucky they are to be each other’s significant other.  Instead, they post funny photos on each other’s walls such as:

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3. They actually have a life outside of their relationship.
This is evidenced by their crazy posts with separate friends. Also, they actually post about relevant social issues instead of limiting their Facebook interactions to how much they wuv each other.

http://9gag.tv/p/a9zg2q/adult-wednesday-addams-reacting-to-catcallers?ref=jfs

4. They remind me of a Disney couple.
In fact, I could actually imagine our professor doing something similar to what this guy did.

5. They know they’re awesome together and they don’t need to validate that on Facebook.

I know them when I studied in college and it’s awesome to know that after all those years, they’re still going strong. After all these years, they still have fun together and I think that’s one of the most important parts of being in a relationship (but what do I know?). Also, I know that each of them are amazing persons and they honestly look really happy together.

So, naturally, my cynicism is abated. Relationships like theirs actually do exist and they actually do last. 

It’s inspiring to look at how fun they are as a couple and think “I want my future relationship to be as fun as that.”

I realized that theirs is exactly the kind of relationship I want. Not exactly, exactly. But how wonderful would it be to be with someone who would be your best friend and lover; someone whom you could be dorky and funny with; and best of all, someone who helps you become the best person you could be (and you to him).

Their relationship seems fun and easy, because you know they just click.

That’s why I think, in a way, I’m glad that things turned out the way things did with my relationships/non-relationships in the past. They helped me grow because they re-established my standards. Also, in retrospect, I don’t think we’d be able to last as a couple the way this cute couple did. Each and every one of those guys I once dated were wonderful human beings, but I guess you just know when you’re just not going to fit and that’s okay.☺

Maybe I should try to be less cynical this year and just appreciate the love that’s going all around.

After all, I may not get into a relationship this year or the next, but at least it’s just as fun to support other couples in their awesome adorable relationships.

Also, being single isn’t so bad. I’ve been single for years. I fangirl over real and fictional relationships and, at the moment, those are the only expressions of love that I want. 💜💜💜

Now that I have gushed over how adorable this real life couple is, let me go back to fangirling over my favorite fictional pairings:

SOLANGELO

PERCABETH

CALEO

SANUBIS

Now, leave me alone to read

And fortunately, unlike this mom, my mom understands what I go through whenever I read

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What I do with my body does not concern you

Take that internalized patriarchal misogynistic perspective of yours and go back to the decade or century when oppression and commodification of women and people of other races was the norm.

In fact, take your “negative-ist” perspective and go back to that damned time, because we don’t need any more of your oppressive judgments on our lives and on our characters in this century. Better yet, take back the time you used to judge other people to actually focus on making yourself a better person and an even better member of this society.

Also, your judgments hardly matter because it’s not like I would allow your judgments to define myself as an individual and as a human being. Unlike you, I respect other people enough to respect them for whatever decisions they make in their lives and on their bodies.

Overcome Commitment Phobia | askannathompson.com

I had a very interesting discussion with Jimma last night. We were talking about personality types and how our personality results are related to the decisions we’ve made. When I told her I’ve always been fascinated by the idea of relationships, but I don’t think I’m ready to believe any relationship could last, she asked if it’s because I’m afraid to just try. I then told her that I love the concept of freedom and of running away. I’d like to think that relationships could last, but I’m also willing to bet that some just don’t.
She then concluded that I have a fear of permanence.
That is, I’m afraid of being stuck in one place, in one job, in one relationship, and I’m afraid that if I get to one, I could never leave.
I’m afraid to be in one relationship because even if I may like someone enough to be with, I consistently think that there could be someone better out there. Or if I do get into a relationship, I’m afraid that if we ever go a step further that I might commit to a relationship which I will regret in the long run. Questions like, “what if I meet someone along the way?” of “what if I realize it really wasn’t love?” plague my thoughts on marriage and long term commitment. It’s both overwhelming and scary.
I fear getting stuck in a job I’m not passionate about. I’m afraid of being unable to move forward, to travel, to do anything I want because I’m stuck in a job. I’m afraid of having other people set their rules and expectations on me because I’d feel like I’m unable to work well.
I can’t imagine buying myself a house because I’d rather imagine myself buying tickets to all the different places I want to go, even if I have to sleep on someone else’s floor or stay at the rankiest hostel.
Maybe I’m just paranoid. Maybe there’s something innately wrong with me.
Then, as fortune would have it, I came upon this article and the post is the accurate depiction of how I feel.

http://askannathompson.com/?p=128

I’m not alone after all. There are people out there who feel the same way that I do. I didn’t realize it, and I actually thought no one is going through the same struggle as I do.

This article is beautiful. It’s just.. I don’t know how to explain it. I guess, it’s just fitting and it sheds some light on how it is to feel that way.

I’m afraid of permanence. That’s it. Plain and simple.

xoxo Sheree

25 Struggles Only ENFPs Will Understand | Thought Catalog

“I’m a slave to my emotions, to my likes, to my hatred of boredom, to most of my desires.”

-F Scott Fitzgerald, This Side of Paradise

Remember when I took that personality test and I got an ENFP?

Well, I tried to take two other tests and, guess what? I got an ENFP again!

It’s not that I can’t fall in love. It’s really that I can’t help falling in love with too many things all at once. So, you must understand why I can’t distinguish between what’s platonic and what isn’t, because it’s all too much and not enough at the same time.

– Jack Kerouac

Kudos to me for being consistent! That hardly ever happens because I’m hardly ever consistent.

So, I decided to go to Tumblr and check out some of the posts on ENFPs.

Then I realized, “Damn, ENFPs are a lot like Geminis!”

http://effinfabulous.tumblr.com/post/110789659009/enfp-report-card

We all know Geminis are kinda fucked up cause they think like so many different people all at once.

ENFPs are kinda like that too.


http://effinfabulous.tumblr.com/post/110788502414/bathss-mbti-aesthetics-e-n-f-p-6-the

In fact, I came upon this article on Tumblr and it perfectly sums up my personality and my struggles as an ENFP. It even mentions Peter Pan as a spirit animal and I wholeheartedly agree.

a walking contradiction in almost every way, but knowing that you wouldn’t change a thing, even if you could

Seriously, Peter Pan is my spirit animal…if he’s to be considered an animal. But you know what I mean.

Also, it’s not easy being an extrovert!

ENFP’s are crazy confusing and emotional, even to themselves.

And like most ENFPs, there’s hardly ever a “medium” range in my “personalities”:

Did I mention how we’re not exactly normal?

Here are some of the other cool links I found that discuss what an ENFP is and covers most of what it’s like to have this kind of personality:

http://www.16personalities.com/enfp-personality

http://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/enfp

http://www.personalitypage.com/ENFP.html

Everything interests me, but nothing holds me.

– Fernando Pessoa – The Book of Disquiet

Also, for no specific reason, I want something like this for my future wedding photo:

Okay, now on to inspiring typography:

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